It is interesting how learning happens with Landis. She is an inquisitive little soul. When she was 3 and asking lots of questions I worried that she was trying to grow up too fast. Now that she is 7 and still asking tons of questions I am realizing that is her nature. Piper also has an inquisitive mind but she is more introverted choosing to pour over national geographic books to find her facts and figures.
The other day we were driving in the car (where a lot of learning happens) and someone asked about molecules and if they were alive. It spurred a long conversation about molecules and atoms and what was made up of what and what determined if things were alive or not. I admit I had to bust out my phone and do some wikipedia research to answer these questions but we had fun figuring it out. The conversation went off and on all day and ended up with us discussing atoms and molecules with their dad when he got home. Pretty cool, huh?
Of course the girls are fit as fiddles but just in case you wondering here are their digits (which are just numbers that don’t mean much, lol):
The big girls did their first archery competition this weekend. It was a pretty informal event with about 15 people participating at their archery academy. Lela was gung ho all for it from the get go but Piper was definitely not. During the class the girls shoot from 10m (meters) and for the competition they would be shooting from 20m so we decided to have one private lesson before the event.
Lela has a big fear of failure, this is also what drives her to fly under the radar at school, quietly figuring things out rather than ask a question or appear to not know something. Piper has a humungous fear of speaking in front of people, especially when asked a direct question (otherwise she is pretty darn social). Anyhoo, Lela’s fear of embarrassment translated to archery, she was afraid of the bow, she was afraid she couldn’t do it, she was afraid Piper was better, she was afraid she would get hurt. All those fears came out about halfway through the lesson, she broke down. Piper was on fire just blazing through with no fear of the bow, she had moved up to a bow taller than she was and pretty heavy (compared to the initial bow she was using).
The instructor was AMAZING in dealing with Lela, he said “no pressure, do what you want” and let it go. Then he excused himself and went to the restroom and stayed just a little long so that she could compose herself. During that time we did some positive self talk and she went out there and used that big bow and shot it like a champ. She used the rest of the lesson to get comfortable with the bow and the distance. I was so proud of her that she fought through that fear and I could see her confidence level boost in her ability, it was awesome. This is probably the first ever test of her esteem that she has faced and she did great. No flying under the radar in a private lesson!! Another note is that Lela only tries things she is good at, this eliminates failure from her life, she doesn’t do gymnastics for this very reason and she knows it. So far I am loving archery!!
On to the competition, Lela and Piper did great. They fit right in on the line and did their thing. They learned to score and did pretty good. Piper ended up getting one bullseye and that edged out Lela’s score. I could tell that Lela was getting upset that Piper was doing better, interesting because this is the first time they have gone up against each other and Piper was better, Lela’s competitive spirit was kicking in. Piper just goes and does and doesn’t think about anyone else so it doesn’t phase her in the least. In the end Piper took first and Lela second. Once Lela realized she was getting a ribbon too she was over the moon, her love language is gifts so the ribbon was a big deal. When Lela got home and got ready for bed she actually pinned her ribbon on her shirt, another sign of how important it was to her. After the competition on the ride home the bigs chatted and laughed about the competition, they really had fun.
I am thankful for Lela, she is a kid who knows what she likes and I can see her having an easy time figuring out what to do with her life. But that doesn’t stop her from searching for what she is “good” at. This morning I found this note on my desk:
I think today we will have a chat about doing things that you like to do but are not necessarily good at. All the things she mentions in the letter she is good at without even trying. She is good at most everything she tries but that doesn’t mean she enjoys it, we learned that with the violin. She is growing up and I am so proud of her for asking questions and wanting to know.
These days Phoebe seems to be struggling with being 4. No matter what we are doing something is horribly wrong. For example, she is crying because she doesn’t have a wiggly tooth and everyone else has a wiggly tooth, then she gets a wiggly tooth and she is crying because she has a wiggly tooth. Then she is upset because she is the only one copying someone and no one else is copying someone, and it goes on and on and on.
Yesterday we were making paper dolls and I was having to cut out everyone’s dolls because it was HARD. But she was still upset because she couldn’t do all the things her sisters could do, never mind that they all cut off the tabs, made their clothes too small and had to start over several times. Yesterday was exhausting for her and for me.
Thank goodness she is so dang cute,
Piper and Lela started archery class today! So exciting and fun. We have already established that the girls are not too keen on team sports but we know it is important to learn to work as a team. Jason and I are the same way and we both do sports where you can compete individually such as golf, tennis, running etc.
Homeschooling scores again with an awesome adventure!! I love that we can do these things during the day and save our afternoons and evenings for family.
Another successful dental appointment with no cavities for anyone. The big girls have been in charge of their own teeth these past 6 months, only reminders from me. They are doing a good job but the hygienist did give them some pointers. Lela made sure to keep a watchful eye on her twin during the cleaning, I will never understand their unique bond but I am grateful for it.
After the dentist we headed out to Vertuccio Farms for some pumpkin patch and 7 acre corn maze fun. We met up with our friends and spent a couple dusty hours sweating and having fun.
Phoebe is determined not to be the baby on the block. We have a one year old next door and Phoebe wants to make sure that Jesse stays the baby. Along this line Phoebe was determined to get her ears pierced and learn to ride her bike and she did both! After a brief 20 minutes she was tooling around the block on her big girl bike! Way to go Pheebs!!
The whole fam damily headed up to the white mountains of Arizona for some fall weather. It was a packed minivan with 4 kids, two adults and 3 dogs!
We had a great time just hanging out. We met a domesticated wild cat that kept the dogs entertained, we hiked and rode our scooters around the lake, we went horseback riding, ate at our local faves and relaxed.
The last two got their ear pierced just days apart. Landis had been contemplating it and Phoebe surely doesn’t want to be left behind.
It was a bit of a life lesson for Jason and I. We were reminded that if we don’t stand for something we will fall for anything. What I mean is that we have to make decisions now for rules we will have for the girls in the future. That way when someone says, “I want an iPhone,” we will know how to answer. I do believe that each circumstance and child is different but we have to have some guidelines so we are parenting by the seat of our pants all the time. So in classic parenting by the seat of our pants here is my last child with her ears pierced.