Fevers and Night terrors

Ah, I remember sleep, it is some vague recollection deep in the back of my mind.  I am already accepting that sleep and I will never be friends again and I regret not appreciating you more when we were friends.  I have good memories of you, sleep.

Landis and Phoebe have a phantom fever.  I love phantom fevers…said no one ever. I took Phoebe to the doctor just to make sure it wasn’t her body fighting an infection and the answer was “nope.” So we are just managing fevers and the night terrors that go along with them.

Last night was a doozy, Jason had Landis and I had Phoebe and they both had night terrors and sleep walking. Landis is so quick to jump out of bed and run that you can barely catch her. It is crazy how coherent they are while deep in their dreams. Jason had to follow Landis around handing her something and telling her to cover her ears because something was very loud. Phoebe did not want to go somewhere I was taking her in her dream so I suggested we go get frozen yogurt and we did complete with eating noises as she downed her yogurt…in her dream.

Not only did we enjoy several sojourns last night, in which we had only minimal idea of where we were or what the heck we were doing, we also got to sleep with kids who felt like water would sizzle on their arms, H-O-T! Jason and I look like we got hit by trucks this morning and as we sipped our java we lamented about sleep and how much we wish we had appreciated it more before kids, lol!

Cactus Cup Meet

The girls had another gymnastics meet and it was exciting.  It was out in Glendale near the Cardinal stadium at the Renaissance Hotel and I had never explored that area so it was interesting.  I am still amazed that they set up whole gymnastics meets inside hotel ballrooms!

I thought it was a great meet, well run and quick moving.  Overall I think we were there 3 hours and a lot of that was the awards ceremony.  The girls both did super, I am so impressed with how they both can go out there and do their “jobs” and keep a positive attitude, be great team supporters and have fun.  A lot of that has to do with their excellent coaching staff.  Landis may have to choose between ballet and gymnastics at some point and I sure will be sad if she loses all that loving support that she gets from her coaches.

   
    
    
 Piper fell on beam again and it was her first event again AND she continued to cheer and get better the entire meet finishing on bars with a 9.525!  Both of the girls medaled in several events and got on to the podium.  Most exciting was the 1st place finish for the team, the girls were over the moon, it was the first first place for the Bronze Xcel team this season.

  
This Friday we head to San Diego for a meet followed by another meet next weekend. Then the season starts to wind down, it sure has been an exciting year for the Haslup girls.

One of those days…

I have had laryngitis, a sore throat, a cough and a terrible sinus infection over that last four weeks. Add in a crazy busy horse show, ballet practices, gymnastic practices, piano and all the other crazy things in life and I am DONE. Done with feeling badly, sleeping badly and being full of SNOT. It reminds me of my previous days when I used to eat a lot of dairy, hard to believe this feeling was a regular occurrence and was my “normal.” GAH, shoot me now.

Today I was spent, I had no more energy for this infection, I was toast…so I dropped the girls at piano and instead of going in to participate I went to urgent care. Thankfully piano is two hours (3 kids, two hour lesson) so I was able to get in and be seen by Dr. Trang, who was amazing BTW – quick but thorough and even prescribed probiotics with my antibiotics, and was on my way to pick up the girls at 11 without skipping a beat.

But I am still so tired and drained and not on my “A” game. So when I picked up Phoebe and she ranted at me for not packing more than one snack (this is her typical end of the school day I am overwhelmed meltdown) it was one straw too many for my camel’s back. I came home defeated, then Piper got upset about something, Lela accidentally broke the opener to the soymilk (which makes is super hard to open without the tab top) and I had a mini meltdown. Not the rage against the machine type, the curl up in the fetal and bawl type:( So the next thing I know Piper comes out of her room and Phoebe stops crying.

I look down the hall and Piper is working with Phoebe to help her make me a Get Well Soon card. Heart melting. Now I am still tired and ready for bed, with more work to be done today, but I feel so much better. Piper is always there to remind me that things can be so much better with a little kindness.  

In addition to the sweet card I got an fierce hug from Lela letting me know that it is okay to meltdown, show my warts and that she loves me anyway. I hope they know they can show their warts and that I will love them anyway too, because that feels pretty good.

Post to my 11 year olds

I read these words in an article and they really resonated with me (the girls get tired of me saying “I read this article and…” which is probably one of those funny things they will remember about me).  Time is speeding by as it seems to do and the reality of my oldest girls heading out the door to find their way in this world feels imminent.  I put pressure on myself to make sure I do my job and prepare them to forge their own paths. Here are some things I hope my girls have learned before they go:

1. Your decisions are important. One decision can change the trajectory of your life. It takes courage to decide you are not ready for something, and courage to decide to make yourself vulnerable and try something new. Always be courageous.

2. Maintain your digital privacy. If you would not walk into the lunchroom and shout it out, don’t ever text or share it on social media. Your “friends” list will not adhere to the same standards of discretion about your life as you expect, particularly when hitting the forward button is so simple. And never hit send on an email before double checking who is in the “to” field. Trust me.

3. Use the right measurements. Life is not measured in the amount of likes you get on Instagram, numbers on a scale or even your GPA. And there isn’t a “thing” you can buy with the money you make that can fill a void in your soul. Always remember that life is about the impact you have on others, so work on building your brain and growing your heart, and the rest will fall into place.

4. Always believe the best in people. Girls can be mean. Well, really, people can be mean. There will be a million times when someone says something or does something or you are told about something that rips your heart to shreds. Give that person the benefit of the doubt, and then offer them grace — because when this stuff happens, it is not about you, sweet girl. It says infinitely more about them.

5. Use your voice. Never sit idly by while someone else is being treated poorly. Period.

6. Don’t pretend to be something you’re not. I often feel that all those cheesy sitcoms on the Disney channel have watered down your brain cells, but this is one lesson they constantly show that I hope has resonated with you. It feels good to fit in and it feels good to be liked, but you will find that being accepted only when you are pretending to be something you’re not is an exhausting, unfulfilling experience. And if I ever catch you acting dumb or helpless to attract a boy, I will ground you. Just kidding (not kidding.)

7. Take charge of your own happiness. No one can make you happy. It is a choice you have to make and it is hard. Trying to fill a void in your life with a person — or with another tangible such as food, alcohol, drugs, etc. is a lost cause. Find out what makes you the happiest, and then do that. A lot.

8. Never diss your sisters or your girlfriends. You need them more than you know.

9. You are enough, exactly as you are. At a minimum of 50 times each day, you will be told you are inadequate, and Photoshop will change what you think is normal. You will feel that your teeth are not white enough. Your hair is too flat. Your boots are cheap. Your thighs touch. Your makeup is wrong. Your voice is too high. Your face is too thin. Your boobs are too big. I wish I could say it gets better, but it doesn’t. Do not let these feelings break your spirit and fight against the urge to conform. Love yourself for who you are in this exact moment, because you are perfect. This is a lesson that most of us learn after having kids, but I’m letting you in on it now. You are a gift to this world, and if you ever forget, just ask. I know I’m just your mom, but I have a long list of compelling reasons why you are awesome.

10. The best is yet to come. The next nine years will have a lot of highs and lows, but rest assured that no one wants to peak in high school, and you have the best that life has to offer sitting before you. And as it becomes less often that you reach back to grab my hand or beg me to lay with you for just five more minutes, or think I’m the smartest person in the whole wide world, I’ll always be there for you — even when I let you fall before raising you back up.

I love you both to the moon and back! – Mom

The Ballet

Landis and I have been enjoying the ballet season this year.  So far we have seen Copellia, The Nutcracker and The Sleeping Beauty.  Copellia we absolutely LOVED, it was so fun and funny.  The Nutcracker we loved and the second half we endured.  Sleeping Beauty was another fun one but we had to go to the 7:30pm showing after a long day at the horse show and we were beat.  We skipped out right at the very last dance but it was a great ballet.

  
Landis is learning her repertoire piece and is enjoying ballet.  She is learning more about classical ballet and why things are done a certain way. She loves to go early and watch the older girls milling about the lobby, she is a quick study and a good student. One of the instructors told me that she was a delight to teach and that they just loved her. I am sure her quiet disposition and her always at attention personality is a dream come true for most instructors.  We are still wondering if she loves ballet but so far it appears that she does. Dancing takes a lot of hard work and commitment just like all the disciplines that the girls have chosen.  I am happy they have found things that they enjoy and that teach them so much about life, being good sports, encouraging others and tons of other skills that will help them be happy in life.

Scottsdale Arabian Horseshow 2016

Today is the last day of the Scottsdale show. I can’t even imagine how tired everyone who works at the barn must be, that is one loooooong show. Lela finished showing On Monday. She had a tough few days with lots of getting ready, changing outfits and waiting, oh the waiting:)

If I had to pick one thing that I am especially proud of it would be how Lela owned this show. She took ownership of things like getting ready, putting on her makeup and handling her “get ready” routine. She did a lot of positive mental self talk to get herself in to her competition zone. It was amazing to see how much she has changed/learned since her horse show in December.

   
    
    
   
Just a few of her accomplishments at her first major show:

CHAMPION – Gold Country and Lela Haslup HA Western Seat Equitation Walk Trot

RESERVE CHAMPION – Lela Haslup and Sir Lancelott Saddle Seat Equitation Walk Trot

RESERVE CHAMPION – Sir Lancelott and Lela Haslup HA Country Pleasure Walk Trot

I think she is really enjoying the showing part. She is warming up to the getting ready and wearing make up part. Her competitive spirit is increasing and her love for the horses is definitely growing. We are pleased she is enjoying herself and learning so much. She is learning how to give and receive compliments and she did an amazing job complimenting others, thanking others and having her picture taken (which is important for her trainer and her business). She is feeling what it is like to be part of something bigger than herself and how what she does impacts others in her barn.

Way to go Lela. Keep working hard and reaching for the stars.

Phoebe has turned 6

As they all have done, Phoebe turned 6.  She is such a delightful, fun, spirited, emotional, kind child that leans toward the intense, perfectionist personality of one of her older siblings.  Phoebe is the most outgoing of the bunch and pulls the funniest faces.  She either has us laughing or pulling our hair out.

   
    
 We started her birthday celebrating with her Nadia at Build-a-Bear.  It was super fun and all the girls got a new lovey to bring home.  After all that fun we headed over to Chick-fil-a for sandwiches.  Next up on the birthday train was pizza at Grampy Jack and Grammy Kathie’s house, complete with gifts for all and Uncle JJ.  We were all set to celebrate with nana and Papa on Sunday but a couple of the girls were running fevers so we cancelled and kept our germs to ourselves.

By Monday, Phoebe was feeling better and went to school.  She was able to celebrate with her classmates and enjoyed being the line leader for the day.

All in all I would say a wonderful way to turn 6:)

 

The Mall

Way back in the day when the twins were just peanuts (18 months) I joined a twins club. Everyone was convinced we needed socialization, I heard it so many times I joined the club. The club really wasn’t for me but I did meet some nice people that I am still friends with today. I was assigned a mentor and her name was Mary and she had twin girls that were 6 months older than my girls named Piper and Zoe.  We had playdates where the girls would go on opposite sides of the playground and play with their twin only.  Wasn’t really the socialization everyone said we needed but at least I could say we tried.

   
    
 Well that mentorship blossomed in to friendship and I can call Mary one of my very few “best friends” in life. Over the years we have grown with this family and the girls have become friends.  We have gone on family trips together, shared birthdays, good times and sad times.  Now that all the girls are 11 I feel like college and the time they will leave us is rapidly approaching.  There is a real possibility that all the girls will attend university together and that would be so cool.  So Mary and I are hatching a plan to keep the girls close over the next few years so that they can lean on each other in the times to come just like their Mom and I lean on each other.

Recently we met up at the mall.  The girls all walked around, made their own purchases and just hung out.  Mary and I trolled along behind them and tried to stay out of the way. It is fun to watch all the girls grow up and I am so thankful that they came in to our lives all those years ago.

Arizona Grand Gymnastics Meet

Piper and Landis had their second gymnastics meet.  This one was a big one with over 1300 gymnasts coming from all over the world.  This meet is put on by Amanda Borden who is the olympic gymnast that founded and runs their gym.

This was a super fun meet and much different than the first one.  Lots more folks watching, lots more gymnasts competing.  Both of the girls handled the extra pressure well.  One of the things I am most proud of is that Piper fell off the beam, jumped back up on the beam and finished her routine, then she jumped down, sat with her team and cheered on the next of her teammates.  Wow, that was really mature!  She also did not let it affect her the rest of the meet.

 

  
 Piper placed 3rd on bar, 7th on vault and 12th in all around for her age group.  Overall a super impressive showing for only her second competition!  Landis did great too placing 3rd on beam and 12th all around for her age group.

Landis did great handling all the people and all the noise (she is not a fan of loud noises). It is so fun watching them doing things they enjoy.  We are very lucky.

   
 

Living outside the box Co op

Today was co op, there are about 15 families that participate with about 50 kids.  It is a really great group of families.  It was started by a lady I met when the big girls were about 2.  

Forensic Science – taught by a defense attorney and a detective (parents in the group)

  
Video creator class, this week was stop motion

  
Felt sewing class

 
And Mathmagicians

   
Later today we will be doing gymnastics👍🏻