Our Kids

Barb has been teaching us a lot of life skills that we can teach to our kids and that we need to master ourselves. One of them is to not take things personally which is so hard. You don’t think it is too hard but then when something happens you realize what a challenge it is and it is definitely something that I want to start teaching our kids now.

Today at the park I was confronted by an extra snarky mom who yelled at me. I was a bit taken back and apologized for the deed that I did not commit (knocking over a box of crackers) and went on my way. Although I handled it well I had a really hard time telling myself that that was her deal and not mine and I did nothing wrong. It was so upsetting that I just had to keep saying to myself, hey that is her and her thing over and over. I called Jace and he listened and made me feel better but apparently it is still nagging at me because all I want to do is eat and my temper is short with the girls (for the usual nap time/quiet time reasons). So here I have let this snarky woman affect my kids and that really gets me. Obviously I need more practice with my golden bubble and what is in it is my deal and what is out of it is everyone elses deal.

It did give me a bit of an epiphany though. I have an incredibly artistic, creative and sensitive child who isn’t ready for all the things her more logical sister is ready to do. If nothing else I can step away from this event with a better understanding and ability to just let Lela progress as she goes and not force her. This sensitive child gets it honestly from both of her folks who hide their soft insides behind a thin veil of self confidence and humor, something she hasn’t learned to do just yet. I can’t say that the mean words of the snarky lady won’t hurt me tomorrow but at least I can tailor it into something good:) I hope that her mean comments to me in some way made her feel better about herself and maybe she won’t be like that to the next person.