Our Kids

First of all I have to say that I have been spoiled. Piper and Lela have never been those kids that get in to or do things you would rather them not like cut your curtains, color on your walls, put stuff in your toilets etc. So they have some privileges that might be above their level. I still keep the scissors put away but they have access to all their markers etc. Having said that this luxury has allowed me not to have locks on any of my cabinets and such.

This morning I decided to be delightfully decadent and have them brush their teeth (they brush on their own in the AM and we brush them in the PM) while I blow dried my hair instead of air dry. Well imagine my surprise (and shock) when I arrived in their bathroom to the two of them up on the counter top with scissors in their hands (one for trimming hair and the other was that one that comes with the baby nail care kit) and hair scattered all around them. Gah! I was not happy. For the first time in their lives I sent them to their beds so I could regain my composure. I was so upset. Not so much about their hair but that they would get the scissors out. I took some time and cleaned the counter tops in the kitchen before going to their room and talking to them. I got down on their level and told them that I was very hurt that they would do something so unsafe. I explained to them that it wasn’t safe and asked if they knew that.

This is where my lesson really started. Piper is very much motivated by words, she is also hurt by words, Lela is more in to things. So my talk visibly upset Piper and Lela was skipping away happy as a clam. I had another talk with Piper about safety and how much I loved her and that I wanted her to be safe and what could have happened if she had fallen with those scissors. Lela is not phased a bit about the whole thing. I am making sure that they both know I love them even when they do things that make me upset.

I am over it, Lela is way over it and I am making sure that Piper knows she is loved no matter what so she can be over it too.

My lesson was how differently they take discipline and if I want it to be effective I have to remember that they are separate beings with different motivators even though they are the same age.

I don’t think they will do it again and I might have to have one cabinet with a child lock……change, I don’t like it:)